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Typically, you'd hop in the car together and be on your way.
But recently she finds a myriad of reasons to have a few minutes alone -- and a need to take her own car. And you know he hasn't said anything like that since he was pledging a fraternity.
Take note of any changes in sexual behavior. You can go on long vacations, go to concerts and so on — no marriage necessary. Keep your cell phone, but get a separate one for yourself. Did I tell her I went to Home Depot? In fact, I have noticed that she texts some messages even just before we go to bed which at times is as late as past mid-night. A cheating wife will often shower before she greets you at home to cover the scent of the other man.
Having an affair -- it's no secret -- can make people feel young and impulsive again and that can spill over into other behaviors. A little something from Vicky's Secret just for you? Funny, he's always claimed that lingerie doesn't do much for him. His affair has reawakened his libido and, ironically, he'd like it to do the same for you.
You smile at the waiter, and he goes off. He knows you're a friendly sort -- didn't he always love that about you? Now that he's having an affair, he knows it's not so far-fetched that you might, too. She's on an affair-fueled, guilt-mitigating mission to casually justify extramarital attractions.
You sadly report your best friend's husband is cheating. Instead of sharing your dismay, he becomes defensive. Plot lines that would have formerly piqued her interest now make her visibly uncomfortable. If there's an affair involved, know you won't be seeing it together.
Many folks experience atypical bouts of depression and anxiety as the guilt of the affair -- and the stress of keeping such a huge secret -- take a visible toll. Symptoms may include insomnia, disinterest in eating or an unshakeable blue mood. Heck, she never even liked dogs that much.
The guy who always has an answer now seems lost for words. His brain is fried with the details of the lies he's told and excuses he's made. Stress can affect the breathing, meaning a regular partner will be able to hear the shallow, more rapid breathing even over the phone, plus you might see an increased blink rate and an increase in self-comfort, anxiety rituals like fiddling with jewellery, foot-tapping, nail-picking or chewing etc.
Women will often be aware how complex deceptive lying is and attempt to create masks or barriers if they're being challenged. Using increased eye contact and open 'performance' bluffs are less likely.
These barriers can be subtle gestures, known as cut-offs, like touching the face or partially covering the mouth with the hand, looking away or down during a lie or even neck-touching. The guilt of the lie can produce physiological responses like blushing or neck-blotching meaning this can be a covering response dating from childhood. Cheating can produce the appearance of the imaginary friend to cover for evenings out and long phone calls.
Using an actual friend for cover is less likely as it involves getting that friend to collude in the lie so it can be easier to produce a new 'imaginary' friend with an easy neutral name like Carol. The vocal tone talking to 'Carol' on the phone can provide clues though. When women talk to social friends the tone will often rise slightly but when we talk to a sexual partner it will drop to mimic sexual arousal.
Is your wife or husband cheating? THIS is the likely place for affairs to happen. These are the body language signs to look out for.
It can be impossible to tell what your wife gets up to all hours of the day. Stress can affect the breathing. Women can be more determined to conceal, meaning their signs are often subtler. Foot tapping, nail-picking or chewing are also tell-tale signs.