That being said, I'm sure people's initial reactions are something regarding how stupid or blind was I to be unaware I was the mere mark of a slimy cheating scumbag for two years. The answer is simple. I am a trusting person, who wants to believe and see the good in people first. I am probably too trusting, and am fully aware that giving blind trust to new people in my life, or what some refer to as "the benefit of the doubt", might be foolishly naive to a fault. I have felt the sting of humiliation from being taken advantage of, lied to, and my extension of trust to someone being exploited and taken for granted.
However, as long as I live by the "fool me once Like most though, the exiled ones never think about what they had until they can't ever have it again. I digress, but here is my point. I do not believe in snooping or utilizing spyware under any circumstances, be it your children, your employees, or your significant other! Invasion of privacy and an individual's right to have their personal life remain just that, personal, is one of the main civil liberties this county was founded on.
I was raised with heavy handed consequences as motivation that if a piece of mail doesn't have my name on it, then it is not for me to open and read. I still believe in the right to privacy today, and the people commenting here that believe themselves to be justified in their spying might as well go fill out a job application down at the NSA. Notorious for the highly publicized controversy regarding the excessive snooping their office has done through the American public's cell phones. They attempt to justify their spy games as a necessary part of preventing terrorist activities that could threaten us on our home turf.
For anyone that believes that tripe, please hear me now. On a side note, I would like to remind all those affiliated with our national government that the famous novel "" was meant to be read as a fictional story, not a user's manual. The bottom line is that the truth always comes out in the end. I didn't need spyware to figure out that dip shit boyfriend was cheating, and if you are suspicious your spouse is up to no good, forget wasting time and money to find out the painful details about what your gut instinct is already trying to tell you.
Instead, spend the money on a makeover or vacation with your friends, tell the cheater he better call Tyrone, and move on to better things. For the spying parents out there, it's as simple as this. If you haven't formed a relationship with your kids based on trust, meaning there are boundaries that are always to be respected on both sides, combined with creating an environment where your kids feel safe having an open dialogue with you about their personal lives and coming of age issues. That entails not being psychotic with rules, overly protective against the dangers of the big bad world that is waiting for them no matter how hard you try to shelter them, and treating them with basic human respect.
Trust me, if your teen finds out even once that you snooped through their room or phone, that's it. You will have broken the circle of trust for good, and they are going to start hiding everything from you, and they are better at hiding shit than the worst terrorist groups of our time. Besides, I was about as horrible a teenager as they come. I was sneaky as heck, a great liar in a pinch, partied constantly, and generally risked my life as often as I could as I fledged the nest. And, most importantly, when I ran into bumps along the way, I felt I could, and I did many many times, call home to mom and dad for advice or help.
I can't say I would have felt the same way about talking to them if they had been spying on me behind my back early on. Trust is an extremely delicate block amongst the other elements that form the foundation of a strong healthy mutually beneficial relationship. Just one crack in the trust block could crumble the whole thing to the ground for good. Honesty is the best policy, albeit cliche sounding, it is an adage as old as the golden rule, and both sayings hold water under any contextual circumstance that calls upon their use.
I can't think of a single phrase, adage, rule, or saying that is used to give merit or justification to spying on another person. I just want to reply to a comment by a Cjones. You can get limited access via spyware that is remotely set up to view things such as sms and call log etc. But this is not something you need to download on the target phone to do.
Also Bluetooth and wifi can be turned on without unlocking a phone. Although physical access is required. As long as Siri is active she will turn it on for you. You can post to Facebook or Twitter check the notes add to calendar and make calls or send sms all without unlocking the phone via the passcode. This is on the current iOS software. Just something to be mindful off. Thanks for the article. We have a serious and legitimate concern for the safety of our teenager someone wanting to contact her with harmful intentions- an actual someone- not a perceived threat.
My daughter is not fully aware of the consequences of her actions. We were considering a nanny-type software to use it as a learning tool. We wanted to monitor her activity and then talk to her about anything concerning or dangerous such as giving out personal details to people on activities and whereabouts. But when I would do my searches, they would always come up with the word "spy" and that was bothering me. That's not what I'm wanting to do. Thank you for the information and clarity on this. I will see if there is something less intrusive we can do to help protect her but still let her have her privacy.
Also, when you check through your apps in the way that you showed for Cydia For instance the compass app says "compass" but to the right side of the screen, the word "extra" appears. Thanks Tim, This people who attempt to rationalize this type of behavior need to take a few steps back and take a good look at themselves What they and all iPhone users should really be worried about is how easy it is for the government to snoop on THEM!
As far as I'm concerned, any parent who is spying on their children in this way are engaging in clearly illegal and immoral activity. Imagine when you were growing up Did your parents listen in or record your phone calls?
Google and Apple both provide methods to physically track consensually devices already. Cube, Compared Dan Price. There is no spy software on the market that will be able to do all it promises — i. We understand the consequences of getting discovered, so SPYERA is designed from the ground up to be undetectable and to work reliably in the most hostile environments. Favorite time to meet was 6. Any semblance of moral high ground is removed when you use these techniques to "reveal the truth". The compatibility of the app is limited and this is the major reason why GuestSpy is on number 8th on this list.
Did they rip open your mail and read it? Or read your diary? How would you have felt? All these actions are clearly a violation of ones "Right to Privacy". And this goes for you people doing this to your spouse as well! Anyone who attempts to justify these actions are kidding themselves At last, some sense! Most of the comments I get on this article these days are from the tin foil hat brigade who completely forget about small inconsequential things like the law and upstanding moral behaviour.
Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the concern that parents and to a lesser extent suspicious partners have, but your inability to rationalise doesn't put you above the law. I didn't know the Right To Privacy was a right children have with their parents. Teenagers can make dumb mistakes and in a world where the government and corporations think it perfectly fine to listen in or track my minor children, I think it's wise that parents do as well. Not to spy on the kids but to assure they don't do things or provide information to strangers who shouldn't have the information.
Teaching our kids that on the internet if it's free then you are the product is important. Am I invading their privacy, Yes, but I love them and I do it to make sure the strangers that track them without my permission don't overreach the uncomfortable boundaries we have all already accepted. Not justified to me! You shouldn't ever break that trust! If and when your child finds out, it's ALL on you! Wrong on so many levels!!! On the other hand, I'm safety concerned from an ex. He had access to my iphone4s.
If I restore, but then load the backup, is there some possibility that if there is a spy program it would still be there as part of the backup-? Same concern if I get a new phone. I have been thinking to purchase one of this spy app to monitor my husband Activities because I feel like my husband is cheating on me. There is no way I could follow him cause I don't drive and when I check his text messages they all deleted even his email and his voice mail.
He always leave home early and sometimes he brings extra formal shirt with him to work. One time I came down to the garage watch him soon as he pulled up and he was deleting his messages but sometimes maybe he forgot to delete his message to his boss , he called her sunshine. She is actually boss of my husband boss. My husband wanted her to do something and she is very nice to my husband. She gives him a lot of uniform and she gives whatever my husband wants.
As what I know she get to the office at 8 am and my husband time is 8: I just need to know what's going on. I am very tired. MJ, I'm in the same boat. I would like to know what spyware can I download on an IPhone so I can catch the devil: Once my iphone started behaving really strange. It became v v slow n was getting stuck. Someone told me to check for spyware. Turns out my partner had jailbroken my phone and installed a spyware. All my msgs chats and call logs were being emailed to him.
So i just restored my phone and upgraded it to the latest ios. Seemed to solve the problem apparently. Yes, you are right, if the spyware was installed on your iPhone and is working, all logs will be restored on your iPhone, it will run more and more slowly. To be honest, it is dangerous to some extent to use iPhone spy software, however, you also can't admit it is useful to help someone who wanna track activities. I know one iPhone spy app iKeyMonitor- no call interruption, people can see it to log SMS, keystrokes, website history Whatever spy app we use, we should think both the bad and good aspects!
Modern technology makes it easy to live in isolation. If, on the other hand, I chose to live my life on a billboard, I'm far less inclined to make bad choices. It's about my responsibility to my child. And it's about the adolescent brain. For those who don't have teenagers and have forgotten their own teen years , to put it mildly, their brains cease normal function around 12 and do not resume normal function until around 20, if they're lucky. It's not that I don't "trust" their judgment, it's that I know their undeveloped frontal lobe inhibits their capacity for judgment. They just don't have the ability to fully comprehend or appreciate the consequences of their actions.
And the consequences are too great. I know the lengths that I and every other year-old boy went to in order to see the mild porn available in playboy, etc. The nature and accessibility of today's internet porn is a force greater than most any pubescent boy could hope to resist. And with the mounting evidence of long-term, potentially permanent damage of habitual exposure to porn in adolescence is alarming. It would be no less irresponsible of me as a parent to allow my children unfettered access to the internet than it would be to allow them I unrestricted, un-monitored access to a meth house.
On the other hand, I tell my children when they are being monitored. I'm not sneaky about it. I tell them it's like training wheels. Once you have demonstrated a reliable pattern of healthy choices, I will ease back on the restrictions until the training wheels are off. But I won't hesitate to put them back on if find you in lying in a pool of blood in the driveway with your femur sticking out. You don't blindly toss your child the keys to an HP dragster his first day driving, right? Does that make you morally reprehensible? It make you responsible and loving. You given him grandma's '83 Buick, with you "monitoring" him from the passenger seat until you're convinced he can operate the vehicle safely.
Only then do you let him drive alone. If he can avoid accidents and too many speeding tickets, then, perhaps, you allow him the sports car. Is that because you don't trust him? But isn't it more about your obligation as a responsible parent? Tim, you are obviously not a parent to a teen. You must not remember being one either.
Parents can be very open, but in the end, kids will make stupid choices. I would like to know what my kid is doing when he tells me he is just going for coffee downtown. So illegal surveillance is the answer? If your son discovered you were monitoring him because you don't trust him and there are few other reasons you'd choose to do so , do you think he would be hurt?
I would be hurt. It would make me question the validity behind being honest about my actions in the first place. If nobody believes you, why tell the truth? This is before we get into the material reasoning behind installing a jailbreak, like voiding warranties and non-working apps.
Want to teach your son responsible banking using a mobile app to manage his money? Too bad financial institutions block jailbroken devices! A rational parent doesn't give a child free reign to do what they like with a smartphone. A rational parent doesn't give their child unhindered access to the Internet. A rational parent sits down with their child and teaches them the boundaries when it comes to social networking, contacting strangers and responsible use of 21st century communication methods.
A rational parent does not teach their child that spying on people is ok, because it's not — in fact, it's illegal! Similarly, spying on a partner because you yourself suspect they are cheating on you is just as illegal. Two wrongs don't make a right, not to mention the fact that it breeds a mentality of suspiciousness, jealousy and destroys the boundaries that keep a healthy relationship healthy. Looking out for yourself is making the right decisions in life.
Any semblance of moral high ground is removed when you use these techniques to "reveal the truth". What if the truth isn't what you thought it was? It would destroy my relationship, and I hope that many other people would react in the same way. Because it's not right. Not to mention the act of jailbreaking puts your phone at risk of non-working apps, malware and all manner of this sort of software.
I'd be just as pissed off about that. Anyone concerned about someone installing such software on their phones can sleep easy if they have iOS 7 installed, as it has yet to be jailbroken. For an idiot like me, this was very informative. Please don't stop educating us about these devices. I've got anxiety now about spyware, oy! My bank account was compromised today and my battery is acting Crazy! Cheers to the weekend. Ok, can someone use my banking app through spyware, and again confirming this is only possible if my phone has been jailbroken?
My husband and I had what I thought was a happy marriage with 3 beautiful kids. He was good to me, I frequently met people who would tell me that my husband talks about me constantly and boasts about how happy he is. Even on social media I get embarrassed by the way he talks about me as if I'm the best thing ever. One day while his phone was charging, a message buzzed in. It was the secretary from the office.
The word "hun" puzzled me. I asked him and he offhandedly said oh we just all call each other that at the office. I flew into a rage about how inappropriate it was and he promised to deal firmly with this insubordination. The red flag wouldn't go away, so I decided to install spy ware. Turns out he was having an affair with this secretary since before our 3rd child; a third child he pressured me into having and planned coming up with names and buying things for the baby before I even conceived.
Through the app I read some sick things they did together. Worst of all, she would even remind him of our wedding anniversary and help him choose places to take me and order flowers.
I got endless info of how they arranged things. Favorite time to meet was 6. My husband always often left home early because he wanted to be home by sunset to spend time with me. I read messages by him to her like, "did you enjoy what I did to you this morning? Her reply, "omg it was amazing, I can still feel it". I don't need sympathy. Just need to say that this app saved my life.
It helped me discover who my husband really was. Even if any of you met this "wonderful Christian upright man" you would think I was lying. To cut a long story short, I confronted without revealing app and during the "deny to the grave" stance most men initially have, I still saw messages from him to her like, "deny it, but when we meet I want you to cry uncontrollably for maximum effect etc"!!! If I had taken the moral high road, I wonder what would have happened to me.
As far as I'm concerned, I wasn't just spying on him, I was protecting my emotional investment. I am having a similar problem only it is my wife having the affair. I need to know what you used to catch him? We have iphones and everyone keeps saying they have to be jailbroken to work with spyware. I do not wish to do that but do wish to install something that will let me know of my suspicions which have been confirmed. I have suspision that there might be some spyware on it when it is returned to me, can someone please help me and tell me how i know if it has spyware on it and how i can detect it How about this analogy I work on a computer where I am employed.
I do not own it and do not expect privacy when I am using it. It is clearly stated by my employer that it is being monitored. I know that they don't take the time to look at each and every email or website visited etc. I have no trouble with that. Similarly, I own and pay for my child's iphone. It is my phone that I am allowing them to use.
I make is clear that the phone is being monitored and that any activity on that phone is available for me to see if I so choose. I am not trying to trick them. I have no interest in looking at every little message they send or recieve, but I want them to understand that I have the capability to do so. Just as I can go into their room at any time. As long as everything is out in the open, as long as they understand they are being monitored, is that immoral or unethical?
What do you think? I was worried my iphone 4s had spyware on it. The battery runs down very fast, even when I'm not using it. I have to charge it all the time. I tried your examples above for searching out Cydia and the others Just so I'm reading this right Thank you for your time. Correct - you need to jailbreak in order to run non-Apple approved software. No spyware is Apple approved, ergo jailbreaks are required. You might want to have a look here for some tips for saving your battery: Are any of the "remote install" spy software packages legit?
If so, could they be used to track and record activity on a non jailbroken iphone4? I know this question sounds crazy, but I would just like a definitive answer so i can stop worrying about it No they are not. No iPhone spy packages are legit without a jailbreak, if someone wants to install something on your phone then they have to do it by jailbreaking. People who can track you with an iPhone are: A few other third party apps Google Lattitude might also share location, but there's no chance of anyone being able to view your calls, messages and so on without a jailbreak.
If you have an iPhone, with standard Apple firmware on it iOS and you haven't gone out of your way to jailbreak or authorise others to view your location via a means like Find My Friends then you have nothing to worry about: For example if I took a picture or sent a text or visit a website would it pop up on the spying phone's screen?
I do not know exactly what the non remote install packages do and do not capture, but I believe they create logs of information - so logs of texts, logs of call durations and recipients etc This would probably be in the form of plain text files, probably fed straight into their online control panels.
Teen Safe is a remote monitoring site.
I used it for my son's iPhone. Morally wrong or not, it gave me the information I needed to confirm he was still using drugs even though he swore he wasn't. In today's world, it's not always possible to trust that the things you taught your kids will stick, especially if they get involved with the wrong people.
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