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There are children that although they are brought up right, they still go off and do the wrong thing. Monitoring your children's activities and where abouts can save their lives if need be. When your child does something stupid and hurts or kills themselves, It won't be me who says "I didn't know my child was doing that" as is often the case when something happens. My kids actually feel safer knowing that I know what they are doing and where they are through the use of software.
Ua, we have always done random phone checks where we take up our teens phones and go through texts and social media. We have good kids that work, make good grades, have nice friends and have never been in trouble before.
However, after several years of checks we became complacent and went several months with out following up. We would never have known about this had we not checked her phone. In addition, you would be absolutely SHOCKED at the content of some of the chats and group texts that went on with several of what our small town considers the "good kids" from "good families".
Kids that we regularly see in school activities and at church. We feel we really let our daughter down by not doing our due dilligence. Don't get me wrong, she is responsible for her choices and is now suffering the consequences but we did her no favors by assuming she had the maturity to handle such freedoms as an unmonitored smartphone.
In fact we are partly responsible for being one of those parents that said "not my kid", because guess what, one of our three kids DID and we never saw it coming. After all this we are searching, with her consent, for spyware to more easily check her texts and app usage. She would rather have the spyware on her phone than not have a phone at all.
We want her to have a smart phone so she has access to apps like google maps when she drives to unfamiliar areas as well as her banking info, etc. So before you start berating parents for trying to protect their teens consider the horrible consequences that can happen when as parents we bury our heads in the sand and say "Not My Child". I'm not sure that spying on your teenagers is going to stop them being teenagers and doing teenager things, like wanting to hang around with their friends and have relationships.
I also think that putting people in boxes like "good kids" and inversely "bad kids" is setting your self up for a fall. On a much more practical level, if you'd read the article you'd know that "spy software" only works on jailbroken devices. In order to jailbreak you'll need to void your warranty, run outdated and likely insecure versions of iOS, and open the device up to tampering from third parties. Certain legitimate apps may not work either.
These measures you put in place could also be easily defeated simply by updating to the latest version of the software. This really goes hand in hand with the idea of confronting the reality of what teenagers get up through honest dialogue. To call a parent disgusting for wanting to keep track of their kids is insane.
It's not a violation of trust, it's called parenting! This world is a scary place for kids and you'll understand every sentence I just typed when you're a parent. You're not supposed to understand, and that's ok, but I do take issue with you calling a parent disgusting for caring enough to keep track of their child. And I did understand every sentence being also a parent. I am disgusted by the people who try to impose their morals on others. When it comes to kids, I want the first hand information about where they are and what they do.
And it should be me having it and not Google or Apple. Oh the irony in the statement: Google and Apple both provide methods to physically track consensually devices already. Try having an open discussion with your children about these features. Try considering their point of view, knowing you can read every text message and view every photo taken.
Have a think about the boundary issues you're likely fostering with such an intrusive heavy-handed approach. If you're thinking "but my kids can't be trusted with a smartphone! You might also want to consider limiting certain functions, using parental controls: Teensafe is a monitoring service you can use on iPhones and you do not have to jailbreak the target phone first. As I know you cannot avoid being monitored by this unless you never use a iPhone.
Of course the smartphones provide us with great convenience, but also brings us with danger. There are many monitoring software such as the iKeyMonitor, it can log whatever typed on your phone and send it to the present email. Wish you good luck. And if you suspect that your phone was monitored,then you can have it factory-setting. First, let me be clear to everyone that I am a parent to a son that is on the precipice of entering his teenage years, and I have also had my heart broken as a victim of infidelity that was happening behind my back for two years, on and off, in my first "serious" relationship, post-divorcing my son's father.
That being said, I'm sure people's initial reactions are something regarding how stupid or blind was I to be unaware I was the mere mark of a slimy cheating scumbag for two years. The answer is simple. I am a trusting person, who wants to believe and see the good in people first. I am probably too trusting, and am fully aware that giving blind trust to new people in my life, or what some refer to as "the benefit of the doubt", might be foolishly naive to a fault.
I have felt the sting of humiliation from being taken advantage of, lied to, and my extension of trust to someone being exploited and taken for granted. However, as long as I live by the "fool me once Like most though, the exiled ones never think about what they had until they can't ever have it again. I digress, but here is my point.
I do not believe in snooping or utilizing spyware under any circumstances, be it your children, your employees, or your significant other! Invasion of privacy and an individual's right to have their personal life remain just that, personal, is one of the main civil liberties this county was founded on. I was raised with heavy handed consequences as motivation that if a piece of mail doesn't have my name on it, then it is not for me to open and read.
I still believe in the right to privacy today, and the people commenting here that believe themselves to be justified in their spying might as well go fill out a job application down at the NSA. Notorious for the highly publicized controversy regarding the excessive snooping their office has done through the American public's cell phones. They attempt to justify their spy games as a necessary part of preventing terrorist activities that could threaten us on our home turf. For anyone that believes that tripe, please hear me now.
On a side note, I would like to remind all those affiliated with our national government that the famous novel "" was meant to be read as a fictional story, not a user's manual. The bottom line is that the truth always comes out in the end. I didn't need spyware to figure out that dip shit boyfriend was cheating, and if you are suspicious your spouse is up to no good, forget wasting time and money to find out the painful details about what your gut instinct is already trying to tell you.
Instead, spend the money on a makeover or vacation with your friends, tell the cheater he better call Tyrone, and move on to better things. For the spying parents out there, it's as simple as this. If you haven't formed a relationship with your kids based on trust, meaning there are boundaries that are always to be respected on both sides, combined with creating an environment where your kids feel safe having an open dialogue with you about their personal lives and coming of age issues.
That entails not being psychotic with rules, overly protective against the dangers of the big bad world that is waiting for them no matter how hard you try to shelter them, and treating them with basic human respect. Trust me, if your teen finds out even once that you snooped through their room or phone, that's it. You will have broken the circle of trust for good, and they are going to start hiding everything from you, and they are better at hiding shit than the worst terrorist groups of our time.
Besides, I was about as horrible a teenager as they come. I was sneaky as heck, a great liar in a pinch, partied constantly, and generally risked my life as often as I could as I fledged the nest. And, most importantly, when I ran into bumps along the way, I felt I could, and I did many many times, call home to mom and dad for advice or help. I can't say I would have felt the same way about talking to them if they had been spying on me behind my back early on. Trust is an extremely delicate block amongst the other elements that form the foundation of a strong healthy mutually beneficial relationship.
Just one crack in the trust block could crumble the whole thing to the ground for good.
So you've used Certo iPhone to scan your Apple mobile device for spyware and you're unlucky enough to find your device is bugged. Do you suspect that someone is spying on your iPhone? Here's how to detect spyware on an iPhone.
Honesty is the best policy, albeit cliche sounding, it is an adage as old as the golden rule, and both sayings hold water under any contextual circumstance that calls upon their use. I can't think of a single phrase, adage, rule, or saying that is used to give merit or justification to spying on another person. I just want to reply to a comment by a Cjones. You can get limited access via spyware that is remotely set up to view things such as sms and call log etc. But this is not something you need to download on the target phone to do.
Also Bluetooth and wifi can be turned on without unlocking a phone. Although physical access is required. As long as Siri is active she will turn it on for you. You can post to Facebook or Twitter check the notes add to calendar and make calls or send sms all without unlocking the phone via the passcode. This is on the current iOS software. Just something to be mindful off. Thanks for the article. We have a serious and legitimate concern for the safety of our teenager someone wanting to contact her with harmful intentions- an actual someone- not a perceived threat.
My daughter is not fully aware of the consequences of her actions. We were considering a nanny-type software to use it as a learning tool. We wanted to monitor her activity and then talk to her about anything concerning or dangerous such as giving out personal details to people on activities and whereabouts.
But when I would do my searches, they would always come up with the word "spy" and that was bothering me. That's not what I'm wanting to do.
Thank you for the information and clarity on this. I will see if there is something less intrusive we can do to help protect her but still let her have her privacy. Also, when you check through your apps in the way that you showed for Cydia For instance the compass app says "compass" but to the right side of the screen, the word "extra" appears.
Thanks Tim, This people who attempt to rationalize this type of behavior need to take a few steps back and take a good look at themselves What they and all iPhone users should really be worried about is how easy it is for the government to snoop on THEM! As far as I'm concerned, any parent who is spying on their children in this way are engaging in clearly illegal and immoral activity. Imagine when you were growing up Did your parents listen in or record your phone calls? Did they rip open your mail and read it?
Or read your diary? How would you have felt? All these actions are clearly a violation of ones "Right to Privacy". And this goes for you people doing this to your spouse as well! Anyone who attempts to justify these actions are kidding themselves At last, some sense! Most of the comments I get on this article these days are from the tin foil hat brigade who completely forget about small inconsequential things like the law and upstanding moral behaviour. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the concern that parents and to a lesser extent suspicious partners have, but your inability to rationalise doesn't put you above the law.
I didn't know the Right To Privacy was a right children have with their parents.
Teenagers can make dumb mistakes and in a world where the government and corporations think it perfectly fine to listen in or track my minor children, I think it's wise that parents do as well. Not to spy on the kids but to assure they don't do things or provide information to strangers who shouldn't have the information.
Teaching our kids that on the internet if it's free then you are the product is important. Am I invading their privacy, Yes, but I love them and I do it to make sure the strangers that track them without my permission don't overreach the uncomfortable boundaries we have all already accepted. Not justified to me! You shouldn't ever break that trust! If and when your child finds out, it's ALL on you! Wrong on so many levels!!! On the other hand, I'm safety concerned from an ex.
He had access to my iphone4s. If I restore, but then load the backup, is there some possibility that if there is a spy program it would still be there as part of the backup-? Same concern if I get a new phone. I have been thinking to purchase one of this spy app to monitor my husband Activities because I feel like my husband is cheating on me.
There is no way I could follow him cause I don't drive and when I check his text messages they all deleted even his email and his voice mail. He always leave home early and sometimes he brings extra formal shirt with him to work. One time I came down to the garage watch him soon as he pulled up and he was deleting his messages but sometimes maybe he forgot to delete his message to his boss , he called her sunshine.
She is actually boss of my husband boss. My husband wanted her to do something and she is very nice to my husband. She gives him a lot of uniform and she gives whatever my husband wants. As what I know she get to the office at 8 am and my husband time is 8: I just need to know what's going on. I am very tired. MJ, I'm in the same boat. I would like to know what spyware can I download on an IPhone so I can catch the devil: Once my iphone started behaving really strange. It became v v slow n was getting stuck. Someone told me to check for spyware.
Turns out my partner had jailbroken my phone and installed a spyware. All my msgs chats and call logs were being emailed to him. So i just restored my phone and upgraded it to the latest ios. Seemed to solve the problem apparently. Yes, you are right, if the spyware was installed on your iPhone and is working, all logs will be restored on your iPhone, it will run more and more slowly. To be honest, it is dangerous to some extent to use iPhone spy software, however, you also can't admit it is useful to help someone who wanna track activities.
I know one iPhone spy app iKeyMonitor- no call interruption, people can see it to log SMS, keystrokes, website history Whatever spy app we use, we should think both the bad and good aspects! Modern technology makes it easy to live in isolation. If, on the other hand, I chose to live my life on a billboard, I'm far less inclined to make bad choices. It's about my responsibility to my child. And it's about the adolescent brain.
For those who don't have teenagers and have forgotten their own teen years , to put it mildly, their brains cease normal function around 12 and do not resume normal function until around 20, if they're lucky. It's not that I don't "trust" their judgment, it's that I know their undeveloped frontal lobe inhibits their capacity for judgment.
They just don't have the ability to fully comprehend or appreciate the consequences of their actions. And the consequences are too great. I know the lengths that I and every other year-old boy went to in order to see the mild porn available in playboy, etc. The nature and accessibility of today's internet porn is a force greater than most any pubescent boy could hope to resist. And with the mounting evidence of long-term, potentially permanent damage of habitual exposure to porn in adolescence is alarming.
It would be no less irresponsible of me as a parent to allow my children unfettered access to the internet than it would be to allow them I unrestricted, un-monitored access to a meth house. On the other hand, I tell my children when they are being monitored. I'm not sneaky about it. I tell them it's like training wheels. Once you have demonstrated a reliable pattern of healthy choices, I will ease back on the restrictions until the training wheels are off. But I won't hesitate to put them back on if find you in lying in a pool of blood in the driveway with your femur sticking out.
You don't blindly toss your child the keys to an HP dragster his first day driving, right? Does that make you morally reprehensible? It make you responsible and loving. You given him grandma's '83 Buick, with you "monitoring" him from the passenger seat until you're convinced he can operate the vehicle safely. Only then do you let him drive alone. If he can avoid accidents and too many speeding tickets, then, perhaps, you allow him the sports car. Is that because you don't trust him? But isn't it more about your obligation as a responsible parent?
Tim, you are obviously not a parent to a teen. You must not remember being one either. Parents can be very open, but in the end, kids will make stupid choices. I would like to know what my kid is doing when he tells me he is just going for coffee downtown. So illegal surveillance is the answer? If your son discovered you were monitoring him because you don't trust him and there are few other reasons you'd choose to do so , do you think he would be hurt?
I would be hurt. It would make me question the validity behind being honest about my actions in the first place. If nobody believes you, why tell the truth? This is before we get into the material reasoning behind installing a jailbreak, like voiding warranties and non-working apps. Want to teach your son responsible banking using a mobile app to manage his money?
Too bad financial institutions block jailbroken devices! A rational parent doesn't give a child free reign to do what they like with a smartphone. A rational parent doesn't give their child unhindered access to the Internet. A rational parent sits down with their child and teaches them the boundaries when it comes to social networking, contacting strangers and responsible use of 21st century communication methods.
A rational parent does not teach their child that spying on people is ok, because it's not — in fact, it's illegal! Similarly, spying on a partner because you yourself suspect they are cheating on you is just as illegal. Two wrongs don't make a right, not to mention the fact that it breeds a mentality of suspiciousness, jealousy and destroys the boundaries that keep a healthy relationship healthy. Looking out for yourself is making the right decisions in life.
Any semblance of moral high ground is removed when you use these techniques to "reveal the truth". What if the truth isn't what you thought it was? It would destroy my relationship, and I hope that many other people would react in the same way. Because it's not right. Not to mention the act of jailbreaking puts your phone at risk of non-working apps, malware and all manner of this sort of software. I'd be just as pissed off about that. Anyone concerned about someone installing such software on their phones can sleep easy if they have iOS 7 installed, as it has yet to be jailbroken.
For an idiot like me, this was very informative. Please don't stop educating us about these devices. I've got anxiety now about spyware, oy! My bank account was compromised today and my battery is acting Crazy! Cheers to the weekend. Ok, can someone use my banking app through spyware, and again confirming this is only possible if my phone has been jailbroken? My husband and I had what I thought was a happy marriage with 3 beautiful kids. He was good to me, I frequently met people who would tell me that my husband talks about me constantly and boasts about how happy he is.
Even on social media I get embarrassed by the way he talks about me as if I'm the best thing ever.
One day while his phone was charging, a message buzzed in. It was the secretary from the office. The word "hun" puzzled me. I asked him and he offhandedly said oh we just all call each other that at the office. I flew into a rage about how inappropriate it was and he promised to deal firmly with this insubordination. The red flag wouldn't go away, so I decided to install spy ware. Turns out he was having an affair with this secretary since before our 3rd child; a third child he pressured me into having and planned coming up with names and buying things for the baby before I even conceived.
Through the app I read some sick things they did together. Worst of all, she would even remind him of our wedding anniversary and help him choose places to take me and order flowers. I got endless info of how they arranged things. Favorite time to meet was 6. My husband always often left home early because he wanted to be home by sunset to spend time with me. I read messages by him to her like, "did you enjoy what I did to you this morning?
Her reply, "omg it was amazing, I can still feel it". I don't need sympathy. Just need to say that this app saved my life. It helped me discover who my husband really was. Even if any of you met this "wonderful Christian upright man" you would think I was lying. To cut a long story short, I confronted without revealing app and during the "deny to the grave" stance most men initially have, I still saw messages from him to her like, "deny it, but when we meet I want you to cry uncontrollably for maximum effect etc"!!!
If I had taken the moral high road, I wonder what would have happened to me. Therefore, one of the ways to check for spy activity on your device is to monitor data usage. But the Cydia app can be very difficult to detect because sometimes it can be hidden. Do you notice that your iPhone is warm even when you are not using it?
If this happen, it is very likely that there is an app running in the background. Most spyware apps are designed to run in the background so this is a big indicator of spy activity. When you hear background noises during a call that have nothing to do with location, there may be active spyware on your device. This particularly happens when the spyware is there to monitor your phone calls. Having a Spyware app on your device can be dangerous on many levels.
Not only is the person spying on you violating your privacy, they are also capable of getting vital information from your device like your address or bank information. Therefore, it is imperative that you take steps to remove the spyware o your device as soon as possible. The following are just some of the things you can do.
The best thing you can do is install anti-spyware software on your device. These anti-spyware programs work by scanning the iPhone for spyware and deleting the programs. There are many such programs available but we advise to choose one with a reputation for efficiency. Anti-Spyware software will detect the spyware and ask you to uninstall it. Another great way to get rid of spyware is to update your iOS.
An update is effective because it often comes with bug fixes that may eliminate the spyware from your system. Restoring your iPhone in iTunes can also be quite effective in getting rid of spyware. Like an update, a restore often eliminates the spyware by deleting all bugs affecting the system. Be advised however that a restore will often erase all data and contents on the device so be sure to have a backup handy before doing this. Considering how easy it is for someone to spy on you, the best thing you can do is remain vigilant.